Twonky is an app for your droid that makes your phone a music server based on DLNA. Which then allows your PC, PS3, and other DLNA client capable devices of playing the music. AndroMote is a little more powerful as you can select which device on your network is the server (music supplier) and which one is the renderer (client/player) and then use your droid to control what music is playing and volume, basically turning your phone into a wifi remote control. Works great it just works on a limited amount of devices right now and PS3 is not on of them, which is my problem. Plus you can only use AndroMote and Twonky on a LAN.
It sounds like you want to access your tunes from anywhere in the world using your 3g connection, which is the internet, correct?
In this case you really don't need a DLNA anything. You just need create a path from your phone to you PC which is really pretty easy considering your droid is really more like a computer then a phone.
I have done this two ways, first using tversity and secondly using Subsonic. Subsonic has a way better interface is quicker and is the way to go IF you just want to deal with music. If you want pics or vids then you have to use tversity and a web browser on your phone and it really is not a good interface and you will probably not like to the point where you don't use it.
The only thing is you may have to setup your home network to do port forwarding, sub sonic trys to do this itself, mine didn't but you maybe lucky. Plus your public IP address that your ISP assigns you is most likely a dynamic one and can change any time, Static ones cost more. So you won't be able to get to your PC unless you know the IP address. Solution here is to use a DNS client which basically keeps track of your public IP address at home and gives it a name like
Google instead of 162.142.14.5. okay that was an example. That way on subsonic or tversity you just enter in the name instead of the IP address.
Google subsonic, read about it. I believe it is on the market and google DNS client. I have used DynDNS and it works great and it is free for at least the level you will need it.
Heads up, I did all this as well. Then I realized, I can put lots of music on my sd card on my phone 16G or 32G's is a lot of music. Now I just do this and scraped the tversity or subsonic. I do keep it alive though, but just for the coolness factor to show people that I can do it.
My problem is that most DLNA devices pull music off a server, I want to push music from a server and use my phone to control it. I have emailed AndroMote asking them to make it work with PS3 as it currently doesn't.