the only way seems to be syncing with gmail contacts, cleaning up what i dont want on the phone, then syncing again.
so i have my contacts the way i want, its an unnecessary hassle to have to do this...but anyway it worked.
so now onto another problem: i have multiple numbers in a single contact, but when browsing and viewing the contact (not editing), it only lists one number. when i edit i see the other #s, so not sure why this is happening.
the contact i am seeing this with contains calling card strings- the toll free number, 'wait' my security code, 'wait' the number i want to call (international).
anyone else know why its doing this ? tried looking into display options in contacts, but nothing in there will make a difference ...