thanks for the input i tried a reset under settings did not help
how do you do s off ?
What do you mean it didn't help? You are still having all the same troubles? This seems very unlikely... did you lose everything in your phone and have to setup everything new again?
I am very leery to hand out directions to S-OFF your phone, it is entirely possible to brick your device if done incorrectly and requires using a wire to physically short contacts on the back of the phone in conjunction with software commands... it is not a simple thing and will void your warranty. If you want to learn more look here:
S-off is Official!!! With Instructions... - xda-developers although it seems the video of doing the "wire trick" has been removed but you can try this one
[video=youtube;KbX6pT4qox0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbX6pT4qox0[/video].
http://unlimited.io/ has more information as well.
Even if you go back to Gingerbread, unless you are willing to ROOT and modify your ROM, you will be prompted again to download the ICS update, and if you reject it it will just keep popping up periodically. Basically I am saying once VZW/HTC decided that we were getting ICS, we are going to get it one way or another... Remember this phone was designed for ICS, and Gingerbread was just a kludge that kept the phone partially crippled until the official ICS was released.
I would suggest getting used to the new layout and features, and addresses each of your issues independently, thousands of us have gone through it and came out being happier with the Rezound in the end, so I recommend trying to do the same unless you are very techie and willing to go way outside the box.