I have been searching for DAYS and trying every combonation of incomming and outgoing, no SSL, SSL, ports etc and nothing ever worked. As always Charter said it was an issue with Verizon and when I spoke to Verizons "tech" people the guy said, and I quote "Man look, I have a Droid X2 and Charter for an ISP and the default settings the phone finds will work, they do on mine". Thats a load of CRAP!!!
I'm going through the same thing. I haven't tried contacting Charter or Verizon though. Did you ever get it figured out???