After being a member on this board for a little bit, and spending a vast amount of my time on here the past month (more than anyone should i think), I feel the need to share some personal stuff from my life today....
So today my girlfriend (of about a year) came to the conclusion that she
needs to not be in a relationship - lot of family stuff, school starting up, etc... she's basically got a lot on her plate...she doesn't want to make me sit by and wait for her to figure things out, and because she went from a 2yr relationshp to one with me for a year (with a one month gap between), she feels she needs to be single and take care of herself. Like i said, she's got a lot on her plate, and she doesn't want to worry about whether or not i'm upset that she isn't spending time with me, etc...even if I were to reassure her that i wanted her to handle her business and i'd be fine, she'd still worry (that's how she is). The "breakup conversation" started about 5-10min after she showed up, and lasted about 10-20min there abouts. That is...once we got situated and some of the "how things going" parts out of the way, I asked her what's up, she told me, and we talked about it...even if i wanted to argue with her about it (i tried briefly), i really couldn't. Afterwards, we talked as if things were more or less normal between us - aside from the main topic on hand of course. .....i'm leaving A LOT of this post....things that were said back and forth, and actions taken, she still has feelings for me - that's my opinion.
When i say "actions" .... part of that is i went to hug her - i needed her to hold me / i wanted to hold her, but it was awkward positioning, so i asked her to get up, bare with me, and i stretched out and had her lay against me, ,wrapped in my arms. She cozied right up to it. She even held onto me. This is one of the reasons why I'm optimistic that things will work themselves out in time, and we'll be back together - i've heard everything form a couple different people, basically saying that i'm setting myself up for a huge disappointment...please keep in mind, I've left A LOT of details out of this post.
Bottom line...we had a really good conversation, especially considering the circumstances. I'm no longer wondering and waiting to hear if she's going to break up with me or not. I'm amazed at how well she thought things out - don't take that wrong...it's just that a lot of relationships i've had that ended, have NEVER went nearly as well as that. I've never met anyone like this woman, and probably never will. I always have, and always will love her. There's more I'd like to share, but I really dont' know how much detail is really appropriate (especially since I've already told most of what happened to two good friends who have been close to the situation, and my mom - and between the three of them have heard the same things at least twice)...Anyway, thanks for listening / reading
...once i get my homescreens on my droid re-setup, I'll change 'em on my signature. Until then, there's a small clipped picture of her and a baby she's babysitting (she has great maternal instincts (based on more than this one picture) - another reason why I love her so much
k...for reals now...I'm going to go get my weep on.
So today my girlfriend (of about a year) came to the conclusion that she
needs to not be in a relationship - lot of family stuff, school starting up, etc... she's basically got a lot on her plate...she doesn't want to make me sit by and wait for her to figure things out, and because she went from a 2yr relationshp to one with me for a year (with a one month gap between), she feels she needs to be single and take care of herself. Like i said, she's got a lot on her plate, and she doesn't want to worry about whether or not i'm upset that she isn't spending time with me, etc...even if I were to reassure her that i wanted her to handle her business and i'd be fine, she'd still worry (that's how she is). The "breakup conversation" started about 5-10min after she showed up, and lasted about 10-20min there abouts. That is...once we got situated and some of the "how things going" parts out of the way, I asked her what's up, she told me, and we talked about it...even if i wanted to argue with her about it (i tried briefly), i really couldn't. Afterwards, we talked as if things were more or less normal between us - aside from the main topic on hand of course. .....i'm leaving A LOT of this post....things that were said back and forth, and actions taken, she still has feelings for me - that's my opinion.
When i say "actions" .... part of that is i went to hug her - i needed her to hold me / i wanted to hold her, but it was awkward positioning, so i asked her to get up, bare with me, and i stretched out and had her lay against me, ,wrapped in my arms. She cozied right up to it. She even held onto me. This is one of the reasons why I'm optimistic that things will work themselves out in time, and we'll be back together - i've heard everything form a couple different people, basically saying that i'm setting myself up for a huge disappointment...please keep in mind, I've left A LOT of details out of this post.
Bottom line...we had a really good conversation, especially considering the circumstances. I'm no longer wondering and waiting to hear if she's going to break up with me or not. I'm amazed at how well she thought things out - don't take that wrong...it's just that a lot of relationships i've had that ended, have NEVER went nearly as well as that. I've never met anyone like this woman, and probably never will. I always have, and always will love her. There's more I'd like to share, but I really dont' know how much detail is really appropriate (especially since I've already told most of what happened to two good friends who have been close to the situation, and my mom - and between the three of them have heard the same things at least twice)...Anyway, thanks for listening / reading
...once i get my homescreens on my droid re-setup, I'll change 'em on my signature. Until then, there's a small clipped picture of her and a baby she's babysitting (she has great maternal instincts (based on more than this one picture) - another reason why I love her so much
k...for reals now...I'm going to go get my weep on.