I know I have not been on here updating for awhile but their was a reason. I wanted to actually use each of the roms in an every day atmosphere and I wanted to improve my knowledge about the development community. Now that I have had the opportunity to do both I must again thank the developers for the work each of you do. Many of you spend a lot of time working on these roms and we again thank you.
Now for an updated response to "what rom is right for me". You need to ask yourself "what do I want my phone to do". Personally I had a droid 1 and went to the droid 2. Though I like some of blur I found alternates for the blur widgets and apps I use via the market. For example, I love the blur messaging widget, social widget, contact widget, and notepad, but I do not like the lag I get from blur. Instead I will run a blurless rom and use launcherpro premium for my contact widget, jorte for my calendar widget, either launcher pro premium or handcent widget for my messaging widget, tweetdeck for social apps, and some type of notepad app. The difference is they do not run in the background and run smoother. The trade off is they do not look as good as blur.
Now if you are in the middle where you are not ready to get rid of blur, or you want to just take it easy being it is your first rom. I suggest a rom that allow you to choose your blur. Squidlymandingo's rom is a nice rom that sit perfectly in the middle for those who want to use roms but want to keep parts of blu.
If you want to keep all of blur then a rom like Apex may be for you.
So basically you need to decide what you want to do with your device. The best way to do that is to just use your device as is and decide what you want to do. If you like blur then look for roms that is built off of blur. If you not quite sure yet then maybe play with squidly's rom and use that as a judge for you. And if you are like me and just hate blur all together, or prefer performance over look then look to a blurless rom. It is your device and what is great for me may not be your cup of tea. This thread is meant as a guide and remember before installing any rom make sure you make a nandroid backup and ensure you have rsdlite set up just in case. And to take it a step further, backup your entire sdcard on to your computer just in case.
Hopefully this thread helps you decide on a rom that will work best for you. Enjoy the work of these good developers and make sure to follow the instructions posted by the developers.