The Incredible has more variables than many phones.. including the droid.
By default, there is alot of social connections going.
One person uses Facebook with constant linking so that any news or new feeds instantly updates to the phone.. the other person doesn't.
One uses google talk, etc etc.....
Friends, latitude, weather, peep, craigslist, gps enabled apps, whether in fringe reception areas, use the FM radio, music players?, play video, tv.com, you tube, games...
These phones are almost as hard to monitor battery usage from one to the next as your own personal computer hooked to the internet is with your friends personal computer.
Its hard to compare battery usage unless we know everyones use and habits and how well they charge their battery.
Everyone has to take the suggestions offered and decide which one fit for them.
I personally never use social apps except for a couple minutes at a time when I'm in the mood.... I have no contacts linked to any of them, and I don't want notifications from them..... My phone goes with the everywhere.. I don't need it being a pest....
My phone is there to serve me..... not the other way around.
With that being said... I see nothing wrong with battery usage considering its only a 1300mah battery.
Seidio makes the 1750 and people seem very pleased and the big dog 3500mah is coming out soon.. "that will be my choice even though I don't need it".
I think we are trying to find something wrong with the phone when reality is... its does a ton more pertaining to internet constant data flows... if you don't believe me.. turn off your "continuous mobile data link" and you will still have all the functionality you do for your moto-droid with much better battery life.
If you try and use all the stuff that option gives with the moto droid, you will be eating batteries with it too.
menu-->settings-->wireless and networks--->mobile networks--->"uncheck" enable always on mobile data.
Until your willing to do that, don't think it a mystery that the battery is being used.....you can't be data linked continuously without battery usage... that almost resembles being on a continuous phone call.