That's right the Moto A855 "Droid" isn't perfect, or awfully close. You may need to keep phone shopping. Give the Eris and the Nexus both a pretty good look,
There is a Bluetooth phone accessory available that mounts on your steering wheel, and is pretty cool, but the A855 doesn't work properly with lots of Bluetooth devices. For all the "Droid does" advertising out there you'd think that our 3 parents were all really big on it, and supporting it,,,, but that's NOT the case. It's all just typical american marketing bull****.
There's a possibility that an update of the O.S. and native app's will come out and fix some stuff, but I don't give it much hope, and past experiences in December and January say it'll be pretty minimal and lame.
All that said, if anybody actually DOES use one of those steering wheel mounted Bluetooth phone accessories, or has a bluetooth headset that DOES work properly with their A855 Motorola "DROID", let us all know. Start a thread and tell us all specifically what device and model number, and as much else as you can!