I haven't peeked back into this thread in a while, and I appreciate everybody's input--and appreciate those of you that have been helping clarify the main two issues I'm trying to resolve:
Touchdown DOES sound great--but I have a small business (read: just me), and I don't run an exchange server. No go.
For those of you that have used all of the solutions that you've mentioned and mention Google-anything in your solution, those who point it out above are correct...you're not getting my point. Google IS a great thing. Android IS a great tool. It DOES just work. I'm not arguing any of these points. I just can't use Google's servers to store my calendar or contacts. Now I know that when most of you see that, you roll your eyes and think that I have a Mulder poster on my bedroom wall in my parents' basement, but stop and think for a second. Do you really want your doctor to have his note saying "Tell Bob Jones about his positive herpes test result" on Google's server? Do you think that rich and famous people (I'm not one of 'em) want to have all of their famous friends info floating up in the cloud? Remember Paris Hilton's Sidekick? Do you think that the head of the SEC should have his Google calendar entry of "Enron Search Warrant" scheduled for next Wednesday? Google storage works well for most people, because most people don't care. Personally, it doesn't work for me. And I think those who want to keep their stuff out of the cloud should be able to take advantage of this incredible magical toy that is an Android phone. Whoops, hang on, off soapbox.
As for what I've been finding. I haven't heard anybody wave the banner for the Missing Sync. That's because (in my humble opinion and experience) it stinks. I never made it work with my Outlook '07 and Droid, and not only did it never work (and tech support never offered me a viable solution), but I went back to try it again to give it one more chance two weeks ago, and it screwed up all of my contacts. Some just disappeared, and even more troubling, about half of them had their data scrambled--the wrong phone number moved into the wrong contact. My recommendation is avoid it like the plague.
CompanionLink USB wins hands down. It just plain works. I thought I had a problem ('till I realized that it was the Missing Sync that had been the problem), and CL's tech support was responsive, provided free telephone support, and followed up even after I solved my problem. Kudos, folks, I'm impressed and I'll by more of your products.
I still don't have an answer for my e-mail, though, and I'm still hopeful. Anyone have any NON-Exchange, NON-Gmail solutions to sync my Outlook Inbox and folders with my Droid? Please?