I'm confused! This is a forum with many many thousands of people with lots of different personalities. Some personalities are more direct, some are impatient, some joke around and every once in a while someone is rude. You just have to roll with it and not let it get you down, especially that you are struggling with seeing your gramma in the hospital... makes it a bit harder to take. Believe me, I've had my share of negative reactions to my posts. I just try to stay positive!