Another geeky female here loving my Droid. Aside from a Palm with ATT phone capabilities that I didn't use because I already had a Verizon cell phone, this is my first smart phone. I had some iPhone envy for awhile based on the functionality, not the looks, but wasn't willing to drop Verizon.
I love that it feels so solid and really would have been lost on functionality without this forum, with the included and online "official" documentation being a bit thin.
I figure if I really want it to look more feminine, I'll buy a girly cover, or set a girly wallpaper!
I was at a Christmas party yesterday with someone who had a new Blackberry, and her husband had set her theme to our favorite college team theme. I might consider that down the road, but so far, I haven't actually downloaded any paid apps.
Anyway, more than you wanted to know, LOL