Well more drama. I found the UD download link on twitter, downloaded it, installed to root of my sd card, booted into recovery, went looking for it...no where to be found. I then mounted my sd card (while in recovery). Pushed it to the phone, again, using droid explorer. Once again, squadouche. I will try the download link you put up there earlier and see if that works, waiting for my phone to reboot to see if I can find what the issue is there.
sorry to hear about all the **** thats happening, let me know when you flash the ROM i posted. just remember to wipe data to factory settings
Of course, thanks for the help AJ, its been a while since I've wiped back to square one, but for gingerbread, how can you say no.