I guess my real concern is this: I am almost always somewhere I can charge a phone at night. During the day, not so much. A phone is a phone first.
That's a personal usage pattern, not a hard definition. My DROID is specifically and entirely NOT a phone first, it's a replacement for PDA, that happens to have a full-time network and, within that context, a live voice option. Since I got it, I have used it for IM and email EACH 20x more than voice.
If I was really after a phone as the once device I carry, if that was a critical primary function... well, I had this cheap-ass LG flip-phone with extended battery. It lasted me a good week or more without charging. But I have far more use for things other than voice comms.
With that said, the amount of power you're using for voice or network is largely a function of the quality of service you're getting. If the phone has to run at full power, probably somewhere between 1/2W and 1W (most handsets limit it to 1W, the legal limit on cell client power is 3W... your cell tower actually tells the phone what power level to set, based on its RSSI), you'll eat that battery quickly. I totally LOVE the power history function in Android (Settings/About phone/Battery use)... if I know where the power goes, at least I have the option of making use changes.
What if I'm traveling or something? I need to know my phone will work when I pull it out. With my blackberry, I know that's the case as long as I've charged it the night before. If the droid can't offer me similar security, its not for me.
If you use any phone enough, the battery will run out. That's just as true of the Blackberry as the DROID or the iPhone or my cheap-ass LG yard-sale phone. You didn't necessarily know your BB would last the day... I'll wager you're either just lucky (it always did) or you adapted your use patterns so that it would (eg, I won't play an hour of "Tetris" at lunchtime, I need my phone this afternoon).
I have the DROID at least as good as other smart phones and PDAs I have used, within reason. Sure, I got a week or two of use out of my Palm V, but then again, it was far less useful, not on a network, and only had a monochrome screen.
Try it... it's just dandy for me.